This is a song I wrote for Kylie, a little advice from dad before she heads out into the world.
I hope you enjoy the memories as much as I had helping to make them.
From the mouth of Zach Bryan, I hope you don’t hate it.
This is a song I wrote for Kylie, a little advice from dad before she heads out into the world.
I hope you enjoy the memories as much as I had helping to make them.
From the mouth of Zach Bryan, I hope you don’t hate it.

Living in a world
We don’t want to see
Too much hurt and pain
Is our reality
Turn off the news
It doesn’t go away
It’s right next door
Seems like it’s here to stay
But I put pen to paper
Write out a few words
Maybe someone will read it
And it’ll help heal the hurt
No one’s perfect, we’ve all done wrong
We’re all paying for someone else’s crime
There’s a time to grieve and a time to grow
We all only have so much time
We all know right from wrong
We all have to live with our mistakes
We all have demons fighting to live
Do you sleep sound in the bed you make?
We all have hurt and pain
We all live in the dark and the light
We all have a choice to forgive
We all can give up or we can fight
We can be bridges or steps, too many are steps
Taking from others to raise themselves up
But being a bridge requires work to connect the gaps
We need more bridges connecting others with love
I’ve never been in your shoes
You’ve never been in mine
We’re not that different
We’re all trying to get through life
A little empathy can go a long way
A simple smile can be a spark
Thoughts matter but action is a verb
A kind word can heal a broken heart
We can all use a little help
I know we’ve turned into an instant culture
But we’re not building on solid foundations
Shifting sand only causes fallen structures
The wind blows and the water rises
And our what ifs and fears turn into reality
We have to lay stones and do the work today
To build a world we may never see

Take The Lead by Jimmy Levy –
Good Day For A Good Day by Michael Franti & Spearhead –

Every year, for a week or two, depending on the weather, we can be in awe of the amazingly beautiful cherry blossoms. I have never seen them in person but when I see pictures of them or see them on tv, they are beautiful.
Are they more beautiful because they come at the end of a long winter ? Are they more beautiful because they give us hope for a future of warm days and sunshine? Would they be as beautiful if they bloomed in July instead of late March?
And then, in the blink of an eye, they are gone and replaced by green.
And that my friends, got me thinking. About a lot of things really. How fleeting is life, relationships, our children growing up, etc etc.
But what it really got me thinking about is our society.
How we bounce from one thing to another without, at least to me, making much change. Someone or something happens and it’s all you hear about for a week or two and then someone or something else happens and the first thing is in the background or gone altogether but nothing ever changed from it. The issue is still there, we have moved on from it to something else.
And eventually, we come full circle and go through the same problems again, over and over.
And we have been doing it this way for decades and I don’t have the answers to fix it. I can only write about how I see it.
Then, as I’m thinking and looking at pictures, I noticed there in the background, meandering slowly through the picture, is the Potomac River.
But the river name doesn’t matter because all rivers are the same.
All rivers are created by smaller streams, creeks, etc flowing into them making one body of water that are no longer separated, but must work together to flow throughout its life.
And in any river you will have rocks and boulders and banks to navigate in and out and around and through.
But then the river comes back together as one.
Which is the point I’m getting to.
What if we always remembered that we, as a society, are the river. We come from different places, different walks of life, we have different beliefs and we talk differently, but we are all living here together and if we flowed together like the river does, then the beauty of the cherry blossoms would not be fleeting.
What if we remembered the hurt, remembered the pain, remembered the love and remembered the beauty of all of us and all of the world.
It’s easy to get used to seeing the beauty of a sunset until we wake up one day and realize we haven’t noticed it in months.
We have to be intentional.
Because when we can learn to live together as one, the beauty of life and how we should live it, the humanity that flows from the river that feeds the cherry blossoms will be as beautiful as cherry blossoms every day, all year round.
I see trees of green, and roses in bloom, And I think to myself, what a wonderful world we can have.


It was a long, cold, dark winter. One that she didn’t think would ever end. There was snow, rain, and sleet. A couple of times there was enough ice to nearly break the branches on the trees. The little girl held on. She waited for the warmer weather, the better times, the warmth of the sun. She knew it would come, it was just a matter of time. As she waited patiently, she would say her prayers, she would thank God for protecting her and her mommy and daddy during these cold, dark, winter nights.
Finally, the day had come. The first bud of spring appeared out of the ground. The bud peeked out of her shoot and could feel the warmth surround her. She was filled with so much joy that, at first, she didn’t notice she was the only bud sprouting. After basking in the warmth of the sunshine for a few minutes she looked around, startled that she was the only one. Where was everyone else? Was she going to be all alone? Did she come out too soon? Was colder weather coming back and she would die because of her eagerness to sprout? She was filled with fear and doubt but she stayed strong. She knew God had a plan for her. It was then that a little girl saw her and started yelling for her dad to come see the new flower. The little girl was so excited that the bud could not help but smile. Her excitement was contagious.
A little while later another bud awakened. He also took a moment to take in the warmth around him. He then looked to see if the others had awakened and that was when he saw her. She was within inches of him and he knew he would love her. It didn’t take long for her to notice him either, even though it took the help of a little girl yelling “Look, daddy, now there’s two!”

They welcomed the spring with all the other buds that started to awaken. With all the other flowers around them, they knew they were meant for each other. When the rains came, he would lean towards her to cover her petals. When the strong winds came they would lean into it together, holding stems. They were inseparable. When the bees came they opened their petals for them so they could spread their seeds to other lands where there were no flowers. They also knew that the bees relied on their pollen to take back to their hives for food. It was a beneficial relationship. Everything was new and exciting.
Then summer came. It was a scorching summer, one like they had never seen. There was no water. Many flowers died but not our couple. They shared what they had with each other. Every little drop of moisture was shared between them. Luckily, they were also planted where they had shade for part of the day. They counted the hours down together until they were cooled by the shade. Every once in awhile the little girl would come out with a can of water and water them, helping to keep them alive. They were often too tired to open their petals wide enough for the bees to come but they did their best. They knew the only way to survive this summer was with the help of others. They prayed their prayers for rain, for cooler temperatures but it was not to be. Sometimes in life, God doesn’t answer prayers and there are reasons only He knows why. They had reached a point in their relationship that they were still together, but they didn’t talk much. Too much too worry about, too much life got in the way. When was their next rain drop, how would they make it through another day without food, why couldn’t they be like they were in the spring? Did they waste this whole season of their life? They knew better because they still shared the little water they had, they still protected each other but the excitement was gone.

Before they knew it Autumn was here. They had made it through the difficult summer and were enjoying another season of their life. The rains came again, as well as cooler weather. When he looked at her she was still the most beautiful, most loving, most caring flower in the garden. When she looked at him he was still the bravest, strongest, most handsome flower this side of Eden. They held each other’s petals more each day, knowing that their days were winding down. They reflected on the spring and the summer. Days when their love was new and days when they didn’t know if they would make it. They thought of their seeds spread far and wide, soon to be new flowers that would spread their love and beauty around the world. It wasn’t easy, they had moments of doubt but they fought for each other, they fought for their love. They survived.

Soon the cold winds blew again. They held on for as long as they could but with each passing day, their petals would fall off. They knew it wouldn’t be long now but they held on for each struggling moment. Relying on each other to get by. Praying for just one more second. She was the first to go, as she was the first to sprout. He wasn’t far behind her.
The little girl, all bundled up from the cold, looked at her daddy and said, “Look, daddy, the first two here are the last two to leave. I wonder if they were happy here, I wonder if they were in love.”
“Now, now,” said the daddy, “we know flowers can’t fall in love but if they could, those two would definitely have been like me and your mom. Through all the seasons and all the weather, the rain, the sun, the cold, they were standing right beside each other. Holding petals all the while.”
The little girl giggled. Through the cold, dark, winter nights she was safe as she anxiously waited for the first bud of spring to blossom again.

I Will Be Here by Steven Curtis Chapman –
Then by Brad Paisley –
Stand By You by Rachel Platten –
Love Like Crazy by Lee Brice –
The End Is Not The Answer by Three Days Grace –
Worth Fighting For by Nine Days –
When I Said I Do by Clint Black –
Forever Changed by Carrie Underwood –
Remind Me by Brad Paisley and Carrie Underwood –
Would You Go With Me by Josh Turner –
I’ll Stand By You by The Pretenders –
Meant To Be by JJ Heller –
What Faith Can Do by Kutless –

To be clear, there is no Autumn or anyone else. I’m still figuring out how my new life will look and ready to explore that life alone for awhile. But when the time is right, I hope it comes so unexpectedly I have to catch my breath.
But I might have a little crush on Autumn Reeser.

Winter came and I was dark inside
Wasn’t living, just trying to survive
Wasn’t looking forward to Spring
There wasn’t a love song I could sing
And for once, I didn’t want the Summer heat
Then I saw you and you smiled at me
I wasn’t looking, didn’t see this coming
If I did I probably would’ve been running
I wasn’t ready for this again
Wasn’t ready for these feelings to begin
Wasn’t looking to love someone else
But you know I can’t lie to myself
These feelings I wasn’t expecting at all
Damn Autumn, I wasn’t expecting to fall
My life is now brighter than the colors of the leaves
And when I’d all but given up I now can believe
Love’s walked out the door so many times before
I was done, didn’t want it anymore
My heart was healing when I thought it was dead
Taking my time to clear out my head
Tired of being hurt and given up on love
Wasn’t even something I was thinking of
Then I saw you and you smiled at me
I caught my breath as my heart skipped a beat
These feelings I wasn’t expecting at all
Damn Autumn, I wasn’t expecting to fall

The Cheesecake Factory, our first date. I remember it like it was yesterday, what you wore, most of what we talked about it, your laugh, your smile, your innocence.
You asked if you could order a Bud Light with your salad. I smiled and thought it was the cutest thing I’d ever heard. I ordered the Louisiana Chicken Pasta with a Mich Ultra. I was never a fan of Bud Light.
We’ve only been back once in the last nineteen years since then. We were going through our first rough patch and I thought it would help to remember.
It didn’t go well.
But we survived, we healed.
At least I felt as if we did.
Now, I am sitting across from you for the third time at this restaurant. If my memory serves me well, this may be the exact table we sat at. If it’s not, it’s pretty close.
I brought us back here, back to the starting line, to see if we can get a new start. Remember why, how, when we fell in love.
I’m not ready to cross the finish line yet.
But here we are.
You order an Angry Orchard , without asking. You started drinking cider years ago when you went gluten free. I still order the Louisiana Chicken Pasta. I know, so many choices but I like what I like. But I order an IPA.
I guess we all change in our own ways.
We both kind of half smile at each other. It feels like we both are afraid to speak first.
How did we get here?

Slowly the words come but the conversation doesn’t flow like it did all those years ago. Every word seems like a struggle. Both of us are afraid to say the wrong thing so we don’t say much at all.
I try to say something funny. But you don’t laugh. Man, how I miss the sound of your laugh. Right now, it would light up my world just to see you smile. But you don’t.
I reach across the table and touch your hand. You start to pull away but you leave it there. But there’s no feeling there. No spark. No emotion.
Damn this sucks.
We eat in silence but there are so many words in my head.
How did we get here? Can this be fixed? What did I do? What did I not do? Is it worth fixing? Why can’t we talk like we used to? Why’s it so hard to tear down these walls we built? Why can’t we get back to where we were all those years ago, in this same restaurant, when we fell in love? Love, what is it, does it even exist? What happened to that light in your eyes? When did you know it was over? When did I quit trying? How did we lose it all? Why can’t we find something to connect us again?
I can’t turn my mind off. And maybe that’s the problem. Maybe I think too much instead of just being me, letting it flow.
Maybe it’s as simple as you don’t love me anymore.
Maybe that’s all there is too understand.
We finish our meals and both look at each other , another half smile.
And I know. In my heart I know.
Back here at the starting line, we’ve crossed the finish line.
Say Something by A Great Big World –
Over For You by Morgan Evans –
Leave Me Again by Kelsea Ballerini –
Hard Season by Matthew West-
Just Say I’m Sorry by Pink/Chris Stapleton-

I got this scar under my chin
Riding down Devil’s Hill on my Schwinn
Hands in the air, flying like the wind
Don’t remember how I ended up on the ground
It was always two weeks before Christmas Eve
When we’d go buy that eleven foot tree
Some things I thought I’d always believe
But I’m back in my hometown and I’m looking around

And I’m kinda confused
Cause everything looks so small
Devil’s Hill isn’t quite that big
And that tree couldn’t have been that tall
When our ceiling is only eight feet
My bedroom always felt big enough
My mom would yell down the hall
Money was tight but we had lots of love
But now it all looks so small

My friends would play ball in the yard
Now I’m out here under the stars
Wondering where they all are
And how did we ever play out here
When a blanket saved you from the monsters outside
When we were young and thought we’d never die
When my parents were bigger than life
And now I wipe away a tear

And I’m kinda confused
Cause everything looks so small
And we visit my dads grave
And my mom doesn’t stand as tall
And she isn’t as strong as she used to be
This house was always big enough
And mom’s voice doesn’t quite carry down the hall
Money’s no longer a problem but man, where is the love ?
And I hold my mom’s hand wondering how it all got so small
And I wonder if I would’ve stayed
Would time still have taken it all away?

Maybe I’ll see it all again through my children’s eyes
I look away before they see me cry as I start to realize
One day they will ask how did it all get so small
This ocean we fished in is only a lake
And did we really play ball in this yard?
And they realize not all monsters are fake
When a hundred channels wasn’t enough
And when their dad seemed so tall
And I hope they know they were loved
When they wonder how it all got so small
And remember when their dad was strong and tall


You watch me grab my keys and put on my coat
And you know it’s off to work I go
You walk me to the door
Silently saying I love you more
When I come home and the garage door goes up
You’re always there to greet me with nothing but love
And no matter what we went through that day
I know you will always be here to stay
I don’t know if I can love you like you love me
Because I don’t know if I can love that unconditionally
You’re always there when I want to talk
You never say no when I want to take a walk
You’re the best listener, never judging me
You’re my shotgun rider in the passenger seat
You kiss my tears when I’m sad
You snuggle beside me when I’m mad
You’re laying here beside me in my bed
I talk but will you remember the words I said
I wonder if you’ll remember that it’s nothing you did
When you’re looking around the house like I hid
And when I’m nowhere to be found
You’ll never give up, always looking around
I wonder if she knows how much she’s changed your life too
When you stare out the window waiting for me to come home to you


(note, I took this idea from The Parable of The Elephant and turned it into what I know)
I have a story to tell about a young elephant
Who was born perfect, she was heaven-sent
And as she grew she felt as if her life was excellent
But being tied by a rope was the only life she knew
So she thought it was all normal as she grew
And she didn’t know there was a love that was true
And time went by and through no fault of her own
She wanted love but felt as if love was never shown
She wanted to be seen but felt as if she wasn’t known
So she broke free and was on her own until she met some guys
They sweet talked her and she believed all their lies
They tied a rope around her leg and she didn’t question why
It was what she knew and they told her how much she was loved
She was beautiful and this and that and such and such
And she felt loved and wanted when she was being touched
At times, thoughts of escape would cross her mind
But she dismissed them because these guys were so kind
But she was blind to this rope that binds

Then one day a really nice man said hello
And a true love, he really did show
And he asked elephant, I really want to know
You are so big and so strong, why do you not flee?
Why do you let this rope keep you from being free?
The elephant said this is the life I’ve lived and it’s how it’ll always be
The man said I don’t believe you feel as if that’s true
Because you must really know if they truly loved you
They wouldn’t keep you tied up as you grew

I know you don’t try to escape because you’ve always lived this way
And I want you to know these chains that hold you in place you can break
Love yourself and forgive yourself, you are precious, not a mistake
Don’t continue to give power to those that never loved you and that were negligent
When the wrong kind of love and affection was given during your years of development
So please listen to me, from someone who unconditionally loves you, elephant
Look deep inside your mind and your heart
It’s time, elephant, for a fresh start
This life you’ve lived you must depart
You don’t want to live this way any longer, this we both know
So I’m telling you this elephant to give you hope
Don’t let your life be defined, please do not be confined by this rope
Do not be ambivalent, you were meant to rise above your environment
Because you are elegant, intelligent, and most magnificent
You are worthy, you are enough and you are loved elephant


History of the birds:
Love, Not Hate: The Reconciliation
Love, Not Hate: Tragedy At Mandalay Bay
Love, Not Hate: Continue To Love
Love Not Hate- Trick or Treat, Halloween Night
Love Not Hate- Teach A Human Day
Love Not Hate – Tragedy in Texas
It was Christmas Eve all through the land
All the birds stared in amazement at the Christmas tree so grand
The little birds could barely contain their excitement
The older birds looked on, filled with contentment
The eagle remembered how far they have come
He remembered all the work ALL the birds had done
Which made this day an even more special day
He took his place and said: “Birds, I have something to say”

“I’ll keep it short since tonight the little ones can’t be up late.”
“It has been a long time since we chose to love instead of hate.”
“It was a lot of work to repair our broken relationships.”
“As you all know, it hasn’t always gone to script.”
“We have learned from our mistakes, our experiences.”
“We have learned to work through our differences.”
“We have returned this land to the way it was created.”
“For that reason alone, tonight we ALL should be celebrated!”
“We are gathered here today because of the one who was born.”
“Who also died for us, tattered and torn.”
“As some of us birds are getting older,
We know we can’t carry this land on our shoulders.”
“We must teach the next generation
That love is the only way to rule this nation!”
All the birds started to sing
A beautiful sound that caused a gathering
All the animals from the forest came
The deer, the rabbit, the skunk and others you know by name
They gathered around the Christmas tree
They held hands and all sung with glee
The sound reached near and far
Then humans arrived, by foot and by car
They couldn’t believe their eyes
It was then they started to realize
Everything they thought they knew had to be ruled out
Because right there was a hawk singing with a field mouse
There was a bear beside a deer
There was a sheep standing by a wolf with no fear
There was a fox right beside a hare
All these beautiful birds were there
They could hardly believe their ears
When the animals said: “There is nothing here to fear!”
“Yes, at one time we were all enemies!”
“We decided to let love rule our hearts until our eyes could see!”
Then the humans held each other’s hands
All the different people across the land
Blacks and whites, Muslim and Christian
All races, all people, could see the animals vision
The eagle then spoke once again:
“One last thing to say my friends.”
“To move forward you must move on from the past!”
“You have to live as last is first and first is last.”
“Let every man, every woman, every boy, every girl
Know what it’s like to have peace in this world!”
“Let ALL our voices join together as we sing Silent Night!”
Then they sang Joy To The World and We Wish You A Merry Christmas
I can only say it’s all true, as I was there to witness
All the birds of a different color
Helped all the people discover
Instead of fighting they should ALL join hands
Because love is the only way to rule the land
Merry Christmas to ALL and to ALL a love filled night


Let It Be Christmas by Alan Jackson –
Santa’s Wish (Teach The World) by The Tenors –
Better Together by Gaither Vocal Band –
Join With The Angels by Matthew West –
Rest In You Tonight by The Oak Ridge Boys –
Gather Round by Band Of Merrymakers –
The Night Before Christmas by Brandon Heath –
Wish List by 7eventh Time Down –
Silent Night by Pentatonix –