My wife and I almost got a divorce three years ago. We were not happy and things happened that should not have. It took awhile to get back to not only where we were but to surpass that and to have a better marriage.
One day I decided to leave her a note. It said hello, my name is Rob. I would like to get to know you better. Here are some things about me that you may not know. Of course a lot of it was silly and things she should know. Things like my favorite football teams are the Dallas Cowboys and The Ohio State Buckeyes. I like running with you. I like it when you smile. I don’t like orange chicken. I love your cooking. I don’t like my voice. I don’t like that we are going through this. I believe in God. I love our children. I used to spend all my lawn mowing and paper route money on baseball cards, video games, and records (who remembers what records are?). I worked three jobs (paper route, lawn mowing, stocking shelves at a pharmacy) when I was thirteen. I wish I would have been good enough to play professional baseball. I used to be able to eat a large pizza by myself. I love being outside. I could sit by a pool or beach all day. I wish I would’ve studied more to be a pediatrician like I wanted to be. I like to read. I like to work-out and run. Etc. etc. You get the point and now you know more about me also.
My wife replied back with things like she thinks her legs are sexy. She loves to run and wish she would’ve pursued a career in it and been paid to run. She hates reading the newspaper and watching the news. She loves to drink water. She likes to have a clean house but has learned to let some things go. She wants to qualify for NYC and Boston marathons (and she has this year). She wishes she was more organized. She had way too many stuffed animals as a kid. She wants all processed foods out of our house. She would love to be the next Jillian Michaels. I would love to see a movie with you. She wishes she was more creative. She enjoys shoveling snow. She can’t stand sitting still. She counts her blessings daily. She loves me and thinks I am handsome and loves my smile. She loves chocolate m&m’s. Etc. etc.
We did this over a few months and it brought smiles to our faces, brought some things to our attention we didn’t know about each other and reminded us of why we fell in love with each other.
In times of trouble it helped us reconnect. It didn’t cost us any money and it was kind of fun. I would leave one in her shake blender and she would leave one in my lunch box. I would leave one under some of her workout clothes so it would take a few days to find it. We made a game of it and it did help us.
Do you need to reconnect with someone? Your husband or wife? Your children? A brother or sister? A mom or dad or grandparent? Maybe you need to reconnect with God. Take the time. Follow our example and make it fun. It doesn’t take a lot. It just takes a commitment to start.
Watch Fireproof and The War Room. Read a devotional together. Exercise together. Eat dinner together. Have date nights (we struggle at this and don’t do it nearly as much as we should).
Today, we know together that we are children of God. That we believe in God and believe in each other.
Escape (Pina Colada Song) by Rupert Holmes –
For The First Time by Rod Stewart –
First Time by Lifehouse –
Hello My Name Is by Matthew West –
For The First Time by The Script –
I Will Be Here by Steven Curtis Chapman –
Moment of Truth by Matthew West –
When Did You Fall by Chris Rice –
Reconnect by Aura Dione –
When A Man Loves A Woman by Percy Sledge –
When I Say I Do by Matthew West –
Wonderful Tonight by Eric Clapton –
Grow Old With Me by Mary Chapin Carpenter –
Reconnect by Director –
Grow Old With Me by Tom Odell –
Where Have You Been by Kathy Mattea –
More Than Words by Extreme –